On Sun, Mar 22, 2015 at 1:11 PM, Ted Lemon
<Ted(_dot_)Lemon(_at_)nominum(_dot_)com> wrote:
On Mar 22, 2015, at 11:58 AM, Alia Atlas <akatlas(_at_)gmail(_dot_)com> wrote:
If your concern is that you might obliviously misstep and be called
out on it - then yes - you may - and you may actually need to think
about it beforehand or learn from it afterwards. Welcome to life.
Thanks for saying this, Alia. I've been feeling a bit frustrated by this
conversation too, and not sure how to articulate that. I think you've hit
the nail on the head. When I think about this topic, I definitely
consider myself more likely to unwittingly (I hope!) engage in some kind of
bad behavior that would result in censure than being the subject of such
bad behavior. However, I would _much_ rather be taken aside and have that
pointed out to me than continue it or "get away" with it.
That is the point of this effort: not to make anybody miserable, but to
notice when things are going off the rails and put a stop to it before it
really gets bad. We are quite capable of improving this through
successive approximation, whereas I don't think we can get it perfect on
the first try. We can't afford to just keep talking about it forever.
I agree with Alia as well and will just add exposing the respondent could
expose the subject, an important consideration.
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Best regards,
Kathleen